In a support group this man continues to deny his faults, thus causing him to take the inventory of other’s
stench. This act protects him from realizing his own folly.
Fallen man will then rally for the support of others. However, his self-rightness causes him to wonder why his
tears only convince co-dependents to feel sorry for him. After all, it is his pride which comes before his fall, thus,
leaving him lonely within himself." - except from our publication Lines in the Sand
What is Denial?
Denial is a psychological mechanism or process by which humans protect themselves from a threatening reality.
Is self-will’s illusion of power which demands adverse addictions by overshadowing or clouding one’s ability to
realize a set of negative circumstances or events as being a phenomenon aimed to allow them a faulty reality.
Denial is an illusion of power that is always demonstrated by continued attempts to do what is perceived to be
correct thinking through our own self-will only to be defeated again and again, as denial is a form of insanity.
Denial:
Blames other people, places and things for every thing that goes wrong in their world.
D - defensive
E - emotional
N - negative
I - immature
A - angry
L - lonely
Symptoms of Denial:
I'd rather die than;
Admit that I can't enjoy my adverse addition(s).
Admit to other people that they know more than I do.
Ask for any one's help.
Take a long hard look at myself.
To expose my weakness to another person.
Change my mind.
Ask God for His help.
Admit that I've hurt other people.
Swallow my pride in front of the people I've hurt.
Admit that I'm wrong.
Ask God what He wants me to do.
Help anyone else.
Self-wills denial works to impair judgment, thus resulting in a self-delusional state of mind which locks the
individual into an ever increasingly destructive pattern or lifestyle. This process has many faces that manifests
itself in any of the following forms;
Simple denial - maintaining that something is not so, which has been made obvious to others.
Minimizing - admitting superficially to a problem but refuses to realize the seriousness of its scope.
Blaming or projecting - denying responsibility for certain behaviors, by fixing blame on something or someone
other than on one's own self.
Rationalizing - offering alibis, excuses for, justification or other explanations as the causes for.
Intellectualizing - avoiding emotional or personal connection to or an awareness of a problem by dealing with it
on a level of generalization, intellectual analysis, or theorizing.
Diversion - changing the subject to avoid discussion of any topic that is threatening.
Hostility - becoming angry or irritable when references are made regarding the problem as being a security
breach to others. Defense is engaged to back the unwanted challenger away.
Denial is so automatic that it operates well below the level of awareness. Therefore, the affected
individual does not realize that he/she is engaged in this act posed by the Great Illusionist.
Denial is progressive, in that, it allows effected individuals to set up an elaborate system of denial
mechanisms that demand that the entire personality must change in order to meet the challenges of the new
reality. Those living in denial slowly begin to believe their own self-taught lies as being gospel truths. Many well
intended loved one’s live in denial that they are part of the problem, thinking, rather, that they are part of the
solution - Please also see co-dependency.
Well there is the run down on the most destructive force in the universe. I could write for days and days on
this subject. I have a thick file I could scan to fill many pages here. However, it is best summed up with this one
statement; Have you ever seen an elephant trying to hide behind a monkey? I have witnessed every one of
these tactics claimed in this text, in both my own life, as well as in the lives of those who I have worked with. If it
were not so sad, it would be funny!
Literary writer Ludlow records a voice after ingesting mind altering substance; “Behold thine own soul, Thou
hast perverted Thy gifts, thou hast squandered Thine opportunities, thou hast spurned Thy warnings, and, blind
to great things, thou playest with baubles. Therefore, behold thyself thus.”
This force has taken more life than every battle that man has ever waged. And again it stems from fear!
Example; I fear that my ulterior motive is going to be realized by others. My pride then tells me that I must hide
my agenda. So the author of insanity helps me to deny what is so obvious to those around me. He tells me that
he is my friend, however, with friends like him, I truly am my own worst enemy, as I like the fool I am, try to hide
behind a piece of glass!
Overcoming Denial:
There is but one way to defeat this enemy! Abstinence is denials only enemy. It is not until a person has
space and the element of time on their side, will they be allowed a rational view, and this brief moment of clarity
is only gifted from above in order for the requester to view the enormous hole that they have dug while
engaged, in this, the most destructive force, the insanity of a self-willed man.
The hard facts are that we do not have any power over our adverse addictions, nor do we have any power
over our living problems. Therefore, the sooner we can realize and just accept this as fact, the sooner we
become willing to ask our Creator for His help, and the sooner He can do something about it, but not until.
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