Most young people appear;
to have a desire to enjoy stable families and fulfilling committed relationships, however, because they have
witnessed the proceeding generation struggle with relationships, many have decided not to make a traditional
comment.
Even with innovations regarding a better understand of the human psyche allowing counseling to help improve
relationships, there appears to be a down turn in the amount of people making traditional commitments.
With so many pastors and other clergy being exposed for engaging in immoral behaviors, It appears that many
young people no longer trust the church to be its role model.
Its as if the role that the traditional family played in our society for hundreds of years no longer has value. Many
also appear to have unrealistic expectations regarding marriage. Its as if many believe marriage should be easy
all the time without them having to make an effort to keep it healthy.
It appears as if the moment it begins to take effort or does not meet their expectations, they begin seeking a
replacement relationship. These sell themselves short, as all marriages need time and effort to grow. We all
have trust issues, therefore, it takes time to built this trust and once one of the parties destroys the trust, the
pain remains, often never allowed to heal.
Relationship Advise
Friendships like marriages have seasons. Some seasons we enjoy, and some we may not enjoy, but all seasons
pass and a new season is always on the horizon. However, if there is chronic abuse, the relationship has little, if
any chance of success.
One of the biggest reasons why people in relations fight is over finances. If marital partners do not find resolve
in this area, battles will continue until there is resolve, or divorce. The second common reason for unrest is
blended families, as being a stepparent is one of the most difficult jobs a person can ever engage.
There often appears to be an emotional loyalty to one parent or a resentment toward the other. Then when we
include step brothers and sisters, it's no wonder most blended families are often difficult.
Statistics tell us that those who wait to make a commitment after age 25 have a much greater rate of survival.
On-line Dating Advise
Okay, we all know of someone who met online, fell in love, and lived happily ever after.
However, there are major risks associated with this new form of dating.
First, anyone can post a great bio of themselves. If they claim to be a Christian, this should send up a red flag,
as many know better how to hide behind religion, rather than walk the path of integrity and honor.
If someone sounds to good to be real, they are hiding something, as none of us are perfect..
Loneliness can make a person very vulnerable, slow down!!!!
Take plenty of time e-mailing, or phoning back and forth.
If the other person has respect in their heart, they will understand, if they don't, you don't need to date them.
When you both feel safe enough to meet, meet only in a public place, never at your home or office.
Do not involve your children until you are 100% sure of a lasting relationship. Period!!!
If the person of your desire will not show you a picture ID, run like hell, they are hiding something from you.
Do not fear hurting their feelings by asking personal questions.
Again, if they respect you, they will understand and comply with you needs.
Do not take their word for anything, check them out.
The very life of you, and your children is at stake here, don't be foolish.
And if us old schoolers can ever be of help for you in anyway, let us know at our Contact Us (HERE)
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